We’ve had a lot of “money talk” lately. I feel it’s time to dig into a little “personal wealth” as well, if you catch my drift!?
Part of the journey to FIRE is also a spiritual journey, in where you (most of us) try to find your inner balance along the way. What makes you happy and fulfilled? – Find out, and use FIRE as leverage to get more of it/spend more time doing what you love!
Society today dictates that we be skinny and fit, wear designer clothes and drive fancy cars, while we vacation on sunny islands and drink tropical drinks all day (while staying fit!). The youngsters today get more stressed and more depressed than ever, trying to keep up with the perfect instagram lifestyle(s). I’m here to tell you, to FUCK all that!
Total Balance (as in the inner balance) doesn’t come from any external source. If you are unhappy or unfulfilled, then nothing you can buy in this world is going to change that. If you’re feeling insecure, while looking at the perfect instagram pictures of the rich and famous, then stop looking at it! Only YOU can make YOU happy. It’s that simple.
This is also the reason, why I rarely step onto a scale. That number on the scale doesn’t say anything about me. The only thing that matters to me, is that I can fit in my clothes! (and I’m cheap, erhm – frugal, so I rarely buy new clothes!). I’ve worn the same belt for more than 15 years (I just realized this today). Every day (it was a birthday gift from my uncle – quality stuff, apparently)!
My belt has 5 holes and I’m currently in hole #4, which means I’m doing OK! I’ve only been in hole #5 once, and that was about 5 years ago (before I had kids!) where I was in the shape of my life 😉
These days I’m struggling a bit to keep my muffin top at bay (I’m being brutally honest here!). I wear pants in size 32/32 (waist/length), and I’ve done so for about 25 years (I’m quite proud of that!). When my belt hits hole #3 and my pants start to get too tight, I stop filling my face with crap and start exercising a little more. It’s really that simple 😎
I’d like to be in hole #4, so I try to stay fit – but I rarely succeed, if I’m honest. It kind of comes and goes in cycles. Sometimes I manage to stay in hole #4 for longer periods of time, but my main vice is anything with SUGAR in it, so staying fit and lean for me does require quite the amount of exercise (remember I don’t drink alcohol – so at least I don’t have to worry about those calories)! Which I’ve been having trouble doing enough of, for the past 3-4 years (surprise, kids are bad for your health! 😛 ).
I’ve read a bunch of those “10 advice to save money” posts (all FIRE blogs with respect for them selves eventually have such a post – mine is still to come!), and most of them touch upon the issue of staying fit to keep healthy, and remain in the same line of clothing. I usually wear jeans or canvas pants, and I have like 4-5 pairs that I switch between, but they tend to disintegrate after 4-5 years of use. “Luckily” we also have such a little thing as fashion, to keep our clothing in constant rotation anyway…
One thing that I’ve yet to find an answer to (I kind of consider this as the holy grail of FIRE), is what people do about underwear, socks and shoes?!
You can’t really buy any of them 2nd hand (2nd hand underwear? Kinda gross!), and yet those 3 are the most important pieces of your clothing (everyone needs them). I hate throwing away socks, underwear and shoes, but they simply won’t last me more than a few years of use (I only have 2 pairs of “daily shoes” in my rotation, and they typically only last 1 year/pair). “Luckily”, fashion is there to help us again. Who wants to wear black socks and pinstriped underwear anyway?! That’s SO last year…
I’ve found that with socks, shoes and underwear, you might as well go cheap (get decent shoes though!), as they wont last you very long anyway!
What do you guys do?!
Enough of this gooey sh…ow of emotions. More on Property #1 later this week! 😛